Reflections

One of my favourite movie scenes is from Karate Kid. Dre (Jaden Smith) defeats his challenger with the snake stance, standing on one leg, since the other has been broken. Jackie Chan’s lesson earlier in the movie was, ‘Stay calm and the opponent will mirror your moves’. In simple words, REFLECTIONS! What you see is what you get. Ever seen a mirror talk back? (Except, in Snow White of course!)

Try telling the mother of a 10-year-old to stay calm and you won’t have anything to reflect upon. I don’t remember, the last time I took a minute, to just be. Why the rush? Where the hurry to? We can’t seem to pin point, but we are always moving. And, those are the blurry ripples we leave behind, for our kids to wade through.
We want them prepared for tomorrow, so we trade in their today. We want them to think out of the box and so we hand them devices they don’t need. We want them to be ahead of their peers, so we chauffeur them from one class to another. Play time? What is that? Their lifestyle reflects our choices. Since when did parenting become such a high-profile chore?

Yes, times are different, but kids aren’t. Childhood still comes just once. She could learn to play an instrument at a later stage, but she won’t be able to climb trees. He will eventually make it big in life but, he will never be able to go back in time. You haven’t yet accomplished all of your kid fantasies, have you?

Yes, I want to equip my child with life skills that no class can teach. But she will have to test the waters if she plans to swim. And, I will have to stay ashore and keep telling myself, she can do it! I don’t want to burden her tiny shoulders with the fear of my failures or the pressures of my ambitions. I want to make the years count.

So what do I do? I stay calm, listen and then accept my shortcomings. If I turned out ok, chances are, the genetic engineering will work eventually. My mom once told me, the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree. And I figured she was right! If she wasn’t, Newton would not have discovered gravity. And I’d have a very happy waistline, delusional, but happy.

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9 responses to “Reflections”

  1. JANU avatar

    Yeah, more than the kids who want to learn what they want to learn, it is the parents who are pushing them to be Jack of all…

    1. Blogwati Gee avatar

      I am telling you, the parents need to be in detention…..seriously!

  2. Sakshi avatar

    Their lifestyle reflects our choices…..you just nailed it in that one sentence. It’s such a sad state of affairs. I feel dizzy seeing parents here rush their kids from one place to another in a single day…..

    1. Blogwati Gee avatar

      Yes…..and it is sad…but true. The kids could be happy with simpler things….if we only let them be!

  3. Anita Jeyan Sandeep avatar

    And kids are so much pampered these days than they used to be! Thanks to gadgets, they are indoors playing computer games munching chips all the time.

    1. Blogwati Gee avatar

      I ensure that my daughter is out there playing…..she won’t know what she is missing till it is lost forever. Hence, play she must…..baki ke liye zindagi hai padi 🙂

  4. sharmila avatar

    ‘Letting kids be…’ should be taught to young age parents who along with their kids run from one class to another .They lose their own identities too in the process of making perfect robots of their kids.

    1. Blogwati Gee avatar

      I swear Sharmila, the parents need their parents all over again….looks like!

  5. Surya Murali avatar

    Thanks for an interesting blog, even though am too lazy to comment most of the time… I have nominated you for the Liebster award…
    You probably know the details being a frequent blogger… but if you need to be refreshed, here they are 😉

    http://theradiantisotope.blogspot.in/2013/02/and-liebster-goes-to.html

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